A Poem

We have had the fortunate experience of meeting some new friends through very unfortunate circumstances. This couple that we found through the magic of story sharing over blogs went through a very similar experience with their son – Brice – that we did at about the same time. We’ve never met them in person, but due to shared experience there is a deep sense of understanding. Brice’s mother recently shared this poem that I thought was pretty spot-on.

Go ahead and mention my child,
The one that died, you know.
Don’t worry about hurting me further.
The depth of my pain doesn’t show.
Don’t worry about making me cry.
I’m already crying inside.
Help me to heal by releasing the tears that I try to hide.
I’m hurt when you just keep silent, pretending he didn’t exist.
I’d rather you mention my child,
Knowing that he has been missed.
You asked me how I was doing,
I say “pretty good” or “fine.”
But healing is something ongoing.
I feel it will take a lifetime.
–By Elizabeth Dent


  1. A beautiful poem…

    I missed you this weekend. Only a few more days until Ezra turns 3! I wish we could be there to celebrate, but I love the everyday celebration of just getting to see each other. Hopefully we can make one of those happen soon!

  2. Sandi Hernandez says:

    So true. It was a tough call for Mother’s Day as Dylan was our first. I wished Ang a Happy Mother’s Day for our Angel & told her she was an official member of the “Mom Club.”

  3. Carole Malezija says:

    Oren and Ahana in working with families in grief and their extended family and friends that is one of the very first thing that we talk about. Say the name of the beloved one. I didn’t read that in any book some 20 years ago when I began in this business, I didn’t need someone to teach me this, it just makes sense.
    Everytime I hear the name Liam I think of you beautiful baby boy. God Bless.

  4. Thank you for sharing that in honor of Liam. It is beautiful. Take care, Katy

  5. Janet Buntrock says:

    Oren and Ahna, I lost your email address, can you email me? Thanks

  6. Chara Kurtz says:

    Love that poem! Thanks for sharing it. My Liam was just talking about your Liam the other day. I think they will be linked forever. His sweet face is never far from my mind.

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