The Charleston 9

I know that this isn’t technically related to Ezra, but it is an important thing to discuss today. One year ago, nine firefighters gave their lives in Charleston, South Carolina attempting to save life and property. It is the single deadliest incident in the fire service since September 11, and is an unprecedented loss for all of us.

I was at work the night of the furniture store fire, and as the reports started rolling in, we all jumped on the computers searching for more information. 2 lost, then 3, then 5, then 7, then finally 9. It was one of the most heart breaking, stomach turning nights of our lives.

There are a lot of things that went wrong contributing to their deaths: many of them systemic problems within the Charleston Fire Department, many of them systemic problems within the fire service in general, many of them poor decisions that night. However, while it is arguable that their deaths were unnecessary or preventable; it is inarguable that they are heroes in the truest sense of the word. 

All that we can do now as a fire profession is learn from what happened on June 18, 2007 and make sure that it never happens again through training and dedication. What we must do as a nation is to never forget the sacrifice that they made, and the sacrifice that your local firefighters are making as you read this. Each year about 100 firefighters die in the line of duty.

Here is the Charleston Firefighters Union page.

Here is an excellent page dedicated to the incident by the Charleston Post and Courier.

Here is a video about a basketball team (that one of the firefighters coached) that will brings tears to your eyes. 

Here’s to you: Captain William “Billy” Hutchinson, 48, 30 years of service; Captain Mike Benke, 49, 29 years of service; Captain Louis Mulkey, 34, 11.5 years of service; Engineer Mark Kelsey, 40, 12.5 years of service; Engineer Bradford “Brad” Baity, 37, 9 years of service; Asst. Engineer Michael French, 27, 1.5 years of service; Firefighter James “Earl” Drayton, 56, 32 years of service; Firefighter Brandon Thompson, 27, 4 years of service; Firefighter Melvin Champaign, 46, 2 years of service.

 

What The Heck Is He Looking At?

On a fairly uneventful day yesterday, I got to thinking about what Ezra seems to be staring at…especially since he likes two things in particular (other than light itself). 1) ceiling fans 2) blinds that let a little light through. We had been told that he can only basically see what is 6-10 inches in front of him and everything else is blurry, so I was curious as to what he actually saw. I found this article which helped explain it more:

“Yet many books about infant development still say that babies can only focus 7 to 10 inches from their face. While infants are able to focus at any distance, at first they do not have very good control of their ciliary muscles. This means that during the first 2 months of life they may not focus accurately. Sometimes they focus too close (in front of the object), sometimes too far (behind the object).”

Interesting. Still makes me wonder if he can tell the difference between a ceiling fan and a spider (not that he even knows what each of those are), and if we are sitting in front of a fan (from his perspective) if he can tell that my head and the fan are two different objects. It does help make sense of the fact that during his first day home, he was tracking me while in the swing (from about 3 feet away). 

Anyhow, we did go for a really long walk yesterday – at least in comparison to the previous couple of days. It was the traditional ‘Switchgrass’ route that we have enjoyed, but it was the first time in several months due to it’s proximity to restrooms and it’s proximity to flat land. Ahna did an amazing job of pushing through the entire way just 11 days after the c-section. She is quite the inspiration!

He’s Got ‘A Special Talent’

Infamous words used by Ahna to describe an ability that Ezra has mysteriously obtained: projectile pooping. We have been peed on before (lots of times now), but poop is something new. Several times at the hospital, when we would change his diaper, he would poop…but that was an oozing, non-threatening type. Yesterday, again while changing his diaper, he let loose with some stuff that really should have obtained a flight plan first. Before we realized what was happening, it made it a good two feet away and all over the carpet. Ahna then took one for the team and put her hand up to stop the rest, while I did everything I could to not gag. Are these really the joys of parenting that everyone talks about?

We actually had a pretty relaxing day, and Ahna made me feel like I was on top of the world on my first Father’s Day. Last evening, we went down to my folk’s house to have a cookout with everyone to celebrate having 4 fathers in town. Dinner was delicious, but the gifts were better. I received some books from Dave and Mary Jo (actually Ezra received some books with a ‘father’ influence), a few cards, and a photography class from Ahna (!). But the best was a framed letter from Ezra:

Dear Daddy,

There are so many things that I want to say, but I don’t know how yet. You have loved me since the day you found out you were going to be my Daddy. I knew you loved me because of the way you talked to me each night. The moment I laid eyes on you and heard your voice, I knew who you were and that I would love you with all of my heart. I can’t wait to tell you these things in my own words, but for now you can just see it in my eyes each time I look at you.

I Love You Daddy! Love your son,

Ezra

Even though I got this letter last night, I think that I have read it close to a thousand times…each time filling up with such joyous emotion. Maybe this is the joy of parenting that everyone talks about. 

These pictures are from yesterday/last night at dinner. I thought that the sunset was a fitting one.

 

I Love My Dad

Ahna writes: Today is my first attempt at writing a posting on this blog. I will not promise the fine tune writing skills of my husband, but I will try to share my thoughts as best I can about this first Father’s Day in our house.

Our family is fortunate to be surrounded by fathers today. Oren’s Grandfather is here, as is his Dad, and my Dad. We are constantly amazed at the generosity, wisdom, and love that they share with those around them. We don’t have grandiose plans to celebrate, but are going to share conversation and dinner with each other this evening. 

This is Oren’s first Father’s Day. The last week and a half he has proved himself to be an excellent Dad; this is no surprise to any of us. Ezra is one lucky kid. I will save the rest for his card…

What else is there to say other than: Thank You, We Love You. 

The Hippie Finds An Outfit

He has been set up with a true-to-blog-name onesie by Grandparents Briese. They actually got it at the People’s Fair in Denver last weekend, but we have been unable to get a good picture until now. The first two times that he wore it, he cried and cried then peed. Such is life. 

We had the great chance to meet up with Mary today before she heads to Mexico for a couple of months, and Sarah and Claire stopped by on their way through town. This evening we ended up at the Zukowski’s annual Spring Fling, but there won’t be any pictures of that since we were only there for about 45 minutes due to a baby that refused to go to sleep. Oh well.

We’re A Hit!

Holy crap! 5,000+ hits in a little over a week! We are so happy that this is proving to be a tool to connect with all of you that we don’t get to see as often as we would like. 

We love you all! Keep checking back…

The Nights Keep Getting Shorter

Ezra did really well the first night or two at home, but the last two nights have been a little more difficult. See, after he feeds he turns into an ‘awake’ machine…taking in everything that he can see and hear. Most of the time it’s really cool, but at 3 in the morning it’s not so cool for us. He also has taken to wanting to eat seemingly more frequently at night, therefore keeping Ahna up more than I. Last night Ahna and I headed out to dinner while the grandparents – all of them – babysited (is that how you spell babysited?) Ezra. We have enjoyed more visits by friends and Ezra seems to be changing every day. Today I think he will be changing mostly diapers. Check the picture of Ezra’s modern redux of Dumb Donald from the Cosby Kids. 

Oh yea, lots of you are wondering how the cat is taking to having Ezra around. Simply stated: awesome. When we change him downstairs and he cries, Shadow comes over to check in on him. When he is fussy and we are pacing the upstairs hallway, she comes and walks at our feet. When he sits in his papasan or in his car seat, she comes over and hangs out with him. It’s been really cool to see the ‘motherly’ instinct that she possesses. 

The Number 4

Four Hours Ago: It would have been 5 in the morning Denver time, and I was up with Ezra. He was having some difficulty going to sleep after feeding, so he and I went downstairs and watched some TV. He had fallen asleep 15 or so minutes before 5. 

Four Days Ago: We were enjoying our second day home from the hospital, and celebrating Ahna’s 30th birthday with a brunch at my folk’s house. Dave and Mary Jo were stuck in Minneapolis and trying to get here for the evening – which they did. 

Four Weeks Ago: Two weeks before the due date and sitting with high anticipation of what was to come. That week, I worked a trade shift and we went to our weekly doctor’s appointment for Ezra. We also went to see the Flight of the Conchords in Denver and enjoyed a great and fun night out with friends. 

Four Months Ago: It was Valentine’s Day week and we were happy to be in the middle of winter. I went skiing twice that week, as I continued to learn the telemark style. The baby was still growing it’s skeleton and the bones were beginning to harden. The baby had just developed sleep/awake patterns and was beginning to hear my voice. 

Four Years Ago: Ah, the actual purpose of this post. Ahna and I got married. It was an amazing June day in Colorado, and we had a beautiful ceremony surrounded by our friends and family. It seems like a long trip since then, but it sure has passed quickly. So much has happened, with the best gift just 8 days ago. Wow, four years. 🙂 Thank you to all of our close friends and family who have helped us get to this point with rings on our fingers and bells on our shoes.

It’s Been One Week Since You Looked At Me…

….that got me thinking. To all of us, one week doesn’t seem to have gone by. It seems like a century ago that we experienced the entire birthing process, but just yesterday that we celebrated Ezra coming to us. So here is a different way to look at the week that has been:

 

7 – Days

3:13 – AM arrival time of Ezra

9.1 – Pounds and ounces at birth

21.5 – Inches long at birth

303 – Room number at Parker Hospital

5040 – Minutes in the hospital (or so)

6480 – Minutes spent at home (or so)

6909 – Miles traveled thus far by family (or so)

30 – Hours it took Dave and Mary Jo to get from WI to CO (via plane)

2 – Great-grandparents still in town

4 – Grandparents still in town

4 – Aunts and Uncles that came into town

3 – Cousins that came into town

50 – Percentile for head circumference at 5 days

75 – Percentile for height at 5 days

90 – Percentile for weight at 5 days

70 – Times Ezra has been breastfed (using avg of 10 per day)

21 – Times any of the rest of us have eaten

84 – Diaper changes

4 – Longest stretch, in hours, of sleep

3 – Times we have gone through 2 or more outfits during a diaper change

2 – Times Ezra has peed on himself

1 – Times when being tired has gotten the better of our communications

0 – Times we wished that any of this would change

 

Hey folks, what do you have to add to this list?

Doctor’s Visit And More

Going to the doctor’s to get weighed….yesterday we ventured to the pediatrician’s office for the first time since we got home. We have set up shop at the Perry Street Pediatrics here in Castle Rock – they come recommended from Jenn who works at Children’s Hospital. Ezra performed well, measuring nearly as long as he did right after birth (it was a little skewed due to his conehead), and weighing in at 8 pounds 12 ounces. They were very pleased with everything, including his weight (which they would like to see back to the birth weight by the second week – and he is on track for that). Oh, and the poop and pee continues to come in droves. 

After the doctor’s office, we had to say goodbye to Kari, Matthew, and Nora as they headed back to the hot weather of Atlanta. It was great that they were here, and just like Kjerstin and family, we wished that they could have stayed for much longer. 

The evening found us at the Dunn’s house celebrating Tanner’s 5th (!) birthday. We had a good time catching up with some folks that we haven’t been able to see yet – as well as have some fun with Tanner. After the BBQ, we came home and gave Ezra his first bath at home (yea, don’t freak out: he will be getting bathing at least twice a week). Since I had the honors at the hospital, Ahna had the opportunity yesterday. He actually did pretty good and it was surprisingly fun.